R U Listening ???

To know why don't v listen 2 others, let us think when do v listen 2 others. V listen 2 others when v think other is having some information which might b useful 2 us. Simple. Otherwise v don't want 2 listen 2 anybody in dis world. Other reason for not listening is dat v think v are 2 intelligent and d other person is fool. The moment v think d other person is fool, our ears automatically switches 2 passive listening from active listening. V have got a very judgmental mind. V always judge other person by his dress, background, qualification, religion, previous experiences etc etc. Sometimes v want a reason 2 b judgmental and because of dis judgmental mind, we don't listen. This leaves a very little room 2 see the things from different perspective. Secondly d moment u categorize d other person as fool, u give a right 2 other person 2 think d same about u. So just imagine the communication between 2 intelligent persons who think that the other person is fool. :-)

Listening can b a big stress buster for both, 1 who is speaking & 1who is listening, provided listener wants 2 listen. Think, last time when did u called up ur friend & heard all of his/her story with out interrupting on anything. Lend ur ears 2 ur near n dear ones.

Mad, Stupid, Paagal, Bevkoof, Fool??? R U ????

Just think when do we feel the other person is fool, stupid, mad, bevkoof, pagal etc etc. Think. Think ..

Whenever other person does not reacts or behaves the way we want him to do, so we categorize him as fool, stupid, mad, bevkoof, paagal etc etc. Simple. Isnt it??

The real issue is we want everybody to behave or react according to our own wishes or thinking. We think what we are doing is perfectly right and others don't have any knowledge, expertise etc. If the other person reacts accordingly we feel proud in it and if the other is reluctant to go his own way then he is fool, stupid, mad, bevkoof, paagal etc.

Is that means that the other person does not have any right to speak his own mind or do what he wants to do. Why we want to force our thinking, our opinion, our judgments on others illogically and categorize people as stupid, mad, fool. We forget that the way we think, behave and react other person can also think, react or behave in his own way. We take the other person granted and fail to recognize that there has to be a space left for him as well. Space for his thoughts, his feelings, his own world. So, who is the real fool ???

In Punjabi, paagal translates to someone who has understood (jis ne gal paa li hai, samajh li hai).

Sunne main to kisi ka viswaas hi nahin hai aajkal. Sab apni baat batana aur jatana chahte hain.

If I am a fool cos I follow my heart and mind. I am glad that I am a fool, a big fool. Definitely not like you and different from this world. Thanks for the complement. ;-)